Reasons for failure of marriages in Pakistan:
Introduction
Marriages are failing in Pakistan due to various reasons, and understanding these reasons is a vital need of our social structure. Divorce and separation rates have increased in recent decades, due to a number of socio-economic and psychological reasons. We explain these reasons in detail to understand these issues better.
Family pressure and forced marriages
- Marriage in Pakistan is considered more of a family responsibility than an individual decision. Often parents fix their children’s marriages by their choice and pressure them to accept their wishes. In such forced marriages, the parties do not get a chance to make their own decisions, which leads to a lack of love, trust and emotional connection between the two people after marriage. Such marriages often lead to mistrust, frustration and dissatisfaction, which weakens the relationship and leads to divorce or separation.
- Economic issues
In Pakistan, unemployment and financial problems have a profound effect on married life. Financial problems add stress to married life. Lack of employment, low income, or constant financial instability causes stress for both partners. When one of the husband and wife is blamed for the financial situation, it can lead to bitterness and distance in the relationship. Financial stress also affects emotional relationships, and sometimes leads to the end of a marriage.
Educational and intellectual differences
Harmony between both parties is essential for success in married life. If there is a big difference in education or there is a significant difference in their intellectual level, they may face problems in their married life. It has often been observed that if one spouse is more educated and the other less educated, the lack of intellectual harmony creates tension in the relationship. This educational gap can create difficulties in taking joint decisions and understanding problems in married life.
Women’s rights and societal pressures
In Pakistani society, social and family pressure is put on women to compromise in every situation. Women are often forbidden to talk about their rights in marriage and are advised to be patient and forbearing. In addition, women are often not allowed to pursue their dreams in terms of employment or education, which affects their autonomy and self-esteem. When women’s rights are continuously neglected, problems arise in their married life.
Unrealistic expectations about marriage
In Pakistani society, marriage is often presented as an ideal or a dream come true, but in practical life, these concepts are often far from reality. When a husband or wife places expectations on each other that cannot be met, frustration, tension and conflict arise in the relationship. If both the partners are realistic and accept practical life as reality, it can increase the success of the marriage.
Lack of mutual trust and respect
Lack of trust and respect can also cause a marriage to fail. If a husband or wife lacks trust or respect for each other, it creates mistrust, suspicion, and depression. For a successful married life, it is important that both people trust each other and respect each other.
Traditional customs and unnecessary expenditure
Pakistani society spends a lot on wedding celebrations, and parents are often burdened with dowries and lavish feasts. Due to these unnecessary rituals and additional financial burdens, financial problems arise in the married life, which creates bitterness in the relationship. These problems are especially compounded when parents or family members place additional expectations on the new couple.
Family intervention
In the Pakistani society, the interference of families in the life of married couples is very high. Parents, siblings, and other relatives often interfere in the affairs of married life, leading to increased marital problems. Family interference creates rifts and bitterness in the relationship of husband and wife.
Issues related to children
Differences often arise between married couples regarding children. Sometimes childlessness also causes problems in marriage. Some couples have different ideas about children, and if there is no harmony between them on this matter, the relationship becomes weak.
Suffering from misunderstandings
Misunderstandings in marriage can also lead to divorce or separation. If there is no clear communication between husband and wife, misunderstandings can arise. These misunderstandings grow over time and damage the relationship.
Professional Competition
If both the spouses are working in the professional field, sometimes there can be competition between them. If one of the two prioritizes his career and the other feels neglected, it creates distance in the relationship. This competition creates imbalance in married life.
Unbalanced household responsibilities
Often in married life, household responsibilities are placed more heavily on one spouse, especially women who have to shoulder more of the burden of household responsibilities. If the division of household responsibilities between man and woman is not fair, it creates tension and frustration in the relationship.
Mental health problems
Mental health problem also plays a major role in marriage failure. If one of the spouses has depression, anxiety or other mental problems and they are not properly treated, these problems have a profound effect on the married life.
Social pressures and setbacks
Social pressure and comparison also affect marital life in Pakistan. If a couple constantly compares the achievements of other couples, it increases the tension between them.
Peer pressure
Sometimes pressure from relatives also creates problems in marriage. If the husband and wife are not allowed to live according to their wishes and decisions are taken under the pressure of relatives, then it creates cracks in the relationship.
Violent or Coercive Behavior
Violent or coercive behavior can ruin any relationship. If there is physical or verbal violence in married life, it weakens the marriage relationship and leads to divorce.
- Being dissatisfied with the role of the spouse
If one spouse is not satisfied with the character or behavior of the other spouse, it can damage the relationship. A successful relationship requires that both people understand each other and fulfill the demands of their roles.
Infidelity and infidelity
In Pakistani society, infidelity or unfaithfulness is also one of the main reasons for divorce. If one spouse cheats on the other or has an affair with someone else, it can cause the marriage to fail.
Lack of effective communication between husband and wife can also damage the marital relationship. If both parties do not express their views openly and try to understand each other, problems increase.
Not giving time to marriage
In today’s busy life, married couples often do not have time for each other. When there is no opportunity to spend time with each other, emotional distance increases. These reasons for marriage failure in Pakistan affect different classes and social levels in different ways. By paying attention to these issues and understanding them, the foundation of a better married life can be laid in the society
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